Ever since losing James and Jake, I feel like I have had to make some very important decisions. BIG decisions, not just deciding what kind of ice cream I'm going to pour down my throat, but big, life changing things.
Like, deciding if we want to bury our babies, or have them cremated. After that decision, it was deciding on their memorial service, then, our agent told us we could take our house off of the market, without penalty, we had to decide if we were going to stay in this house or move, even if it meant moving without James and Jake.
I had to decide to leave my volunteer position that I had held for four years.
I decided to create a March for Babies team honoring James and Jake.
Christy and I decided to start a business.
I decided to leave my work at home job, starting July 1.
Once our contract was up for our house, we had to decide whether or not to renew our contract. That was last Friday. We decided to extend the contract for thirty days and break our contract on June 13th. So, we extended for two weeks started May 31st.
On June 1st, we got an offer. On June 2nd, they accepted our counter.
So, yesterday, when we had to decide on a house, it was a little overwhelming. We had narrowed it down to two homes, and we were going back to both homes last night, so we could make a decision. Typically I would have brought my parents with us to help us make this decision, but they are in Colorado, so we were flying solo. Which petrified me. So, I enlisted the help of two friends, who came along to view the homes.
The first home was beautiful, on an acre, out in the country. We left that house and then we arrived at the next house, the other contender.
And I knew, this was the house. From the minute we stepped out of the car, I knew.
And I was right, we made an offer last night, which will most definitely be countered, but it feels so good to have made this decision. I woke up this morning, knowing it was the right decision.
and that feels so good. Perhaps I'll have an update later for you today...
You have made a ton of big decisions lately! I'm exhausted just reading about them - I can't imagine how you feel. Congratulations on deciding on a house! Best of luck today! I'll be thinking of you.
Posted by: Sarah M. | June 05, 2008 at 09:45 AM
FANTASTIC...I hope it all works out with the offer!!
Posted by: staciesmadness | June 05, 2008 at 09:49 AM
Yay for you! I hope your house works out!
Posted by: wfbdoglover | June 05, 2008 at 10:04 AM
It's amazing how when you walk into your house you just "know". It feels right. When we moved into our house there was no transition. It felt like ours before the first box was even unpacked.
I don't envy you having to move though. It's exhausting. Good luck!
Posted by: SarahC | June 05, 2008 at 10:19 AM
I think you've made more decisions lately than I've made in the past 10 years or so. I wish you all the best with the housing stuff. As for your other post about honesty, I've always felt honesty is highly overrated. I hope you have a great day today!!!
Posted by: Amy M | June 05, 2008 at 10:33 AM
Big stuff for sure. Good luck!
Posted by: Nan | June 05, 2008 at 10:52 AM
Good luck with the house.
Posted by: Antonette | June 05, 2008 at 10:54 AM
I am so excited for you. I can't wait to see what new adventures these decisions bring to your family.
I hope you post pictures of your house. I want to see what you knew was yours!
Posted by: RubiaLala | June 05, 2008 at 10:57 AM
Yay! Good job on making up your mind. It can suck to high heaven, but you did it! Yay on find "the" house. :) Have a great day!
Posted by: Sara | June 05, 2008 at 11:04 AM
Oh I can't wait to hear. I'm so sorry I wasn't able to go, but so glad you had two fabulous friends by your side.
Steph
Posted by: Adventures In Babywearing | June 05, 2008 at 11:19 AM
I would love to hear about the home you chose!
Posted by: Amy | June 05, 2008 at 11:20 AM
It was right...
If only you could have seen your face light up as to say "I'm home". You walked up those stairs like you had been doing it forever.(ok you have seen the home 1 billion times prior)and your family seemed at peace and happy.
I loved it and I will be moving into the basement. Ok, maybe not, but that would be fun, I'd even fold your laundry...
Really... you have had to make a lot of decisions, some happy, some sad but just the fact that you took those steps says something.
I am proud, as your friend, fellow blogger of every step you have taken.
Keep steppin'
~CE
Posted by: crookedeyebrow | June 05, 2008 at 11:20 AM
What a great feeling when you KNOW that it is the house for you! I am excited to hear about how it all goes. Good luck!
Posted by: Tina | June 05, 2008 at 11:32 AM
So glad to hear you made a decision about a house! I'm sure it is beautiful and I can't wait to see pictures! Have a great day!
Posted by: Danielle | June 05, 2008 at 11:34 AM
I'm impressed that you were not so overwhelmed by your decisions that you could not make them. Good for you. Can't wait to hear about the move and the new house. Looks like you are about to start a new adventure.
Posted by: Megan | June 05, 2008 at 11:37 AM
Oh, I love that certain feeling of "this is the one." Makes this one thing so much easier in what sounds to have been a sea of internal debate for you and Brian. I hope y'all get the house, and I hope we get to see pictures SOON. (And I hope it's right next door to my house, too. Hey, as long as I'm hopin', right?)
Hugs -
Posted by: Megan (FriedOkra) | June 05, 2008 at 11:44 AM
Good luck on the house and congrats on selling yours! Not too easy to do lately!
Posted by: Rene | June 05, 2008 at 11:59 AM
CE is right - your confidence in that house was evident. It's such a beautiful home and great choice. Thanks for enlisting me - I enjoyed being a part of that. Now when moving time comes feel free to enlist my help again.
Posted by: Lynette | June 05, 2008 at 12:00 PM
Oh Good luck. And I'm so glad you finally had a HAPPY decision to make.
Posted by: Miss Britt | June 05, 2008 at 01:02 PM
That is great! Decisions can be overwhelming when you have so much going on in your life. Hope the house works out!
Posted by: Kellyn | June 05, 2008 at 01:33 PM
I'm suprised to hear about the job! But good for you for making a decision that works for you.
I'm so happy to hear about the house! I can't wait to hear if they accepted your offer...
And I want to see pictures, too. That way I know where to stalk you next.
Posted by: Thea @ I'm a Drama Mama | June 05, 2008 at 02:02 PM
Having peace after making a big decision is a HUGE blessing. It's so easy to waffle and feel horrible about it.
Hope you get good news back from the sellers.
Posted by: Kelly @ Love Well | June 05, 2008 at 02:47 PM
Wow! Lots of changes. Congrats on the house, can't wait to see pictures.
Posted by: motomom | June 05, 2008 at 03:03 PM
Decision making can break you. I can completely sympathize. We've done a lot of new house/build a house/move to Milwaukee/accept a new job here/leave said new job for another new job/buy a new car/buy a used car....and on decision making in the last year along with all the decisions that went with my dad's death this last year. It's mentally and physically exhausting. I hope you guys get the house and I hope with it comes a new era free from big life altering decisions (at least for a while).
Posted by: Deconstructing Jen | June 05, 2008 at 03:06 PM
Yay for you! That's fantastic about the house. I'm really happy for you that you found somewhere you love - a settled home makes all the difference!
Posted by: Emily | June 05, 2008 at 03:23 PM